.:Faking it!!!:.
I know I am suppose to be drowning myself with notes , books and whatsoever to prepare for my upcoming final exams.I cant help it , I just had to blog something that has been on my mind.SK and I were chatting last night.SK just ranted to me about how unreal people are at times and how they are good to you when they need something or driven by motives.I could not agree more. It is always a question that will bother you for the rest of your lives.I suppose it is part of so called life that everyone has to go through.Nevertheless , I am a victim myself. SK gave me a question to ponder on. She asked , how real are the people around you? How do you know that they are real? I reckon that is a good question. I guess it show through the little things that they do and when things are rough going. It does not mean that people that you hang out with are people that real to you.For all you know they just want something from you.Sometimes individuals that you have negelcted , are people that are actually real.They care for you nonetheless.
As for me, I quite am clear as to who are my friends and aquaintances.I make my decision based on numerous criteria.So far it had worked for me , thus it give me a clear picture of who are my friends or rather who are real to me. Sometimes a little unconditional kind gesture can make a whole world to someone.Even they think you are faking it, but ultimately God knows and you will be vindicated.Again it is not easy to identify who is real and who is not.It is a very subjective matter.I do sometimes fall into a trap myself.It makes me a bitter and angry person.Thankfully there is something called forgiveness.A counter pain.A remedy.It makes me a whole lot joyful person.
Imagine this, you have a friend studying all alone somewhere in the library. You, blesssed with friends and is studying in a group friends.The lonely friend comes along and asked if you want to have something to eat.You rejected him because you were undecided and you want to be with your group of friends.So obiviously the lonely friend of yours would be dissapointed. At times , people judge this kind of situation.That lonely friend might think that you are not real to him.When you need him you call him, when you dont you just reject him.There is always 2 side to the coin.This is what I think. The lonely friend should not be at all angry or be dissapointed with you even he had an excuse to be.I suggest if you are in that situation just forgive and move on with life.As for the you the person that rejected the lonely friend, be tactful to his needs.All he wanted is someone to accompany him for a snack.You dont know what that little gesture can do. It can mean a something to him.
Dont be jugemental over issues like these , it make you concludes that people are not real.It works both way.Be tactful to peoples needs, be assertive in your words and learn to forgive. These little things can help you more that you ever know.People who are real to you hold on to them tightly, people who are faking it just be nice dont curse them.Then again learn to forgive.There are real and fake people out there.Have wisdom to choose which ones are real and which ones are fake.You might just find out that people who you thought are fake are actually you real friends who cares about you.
** Hope this helps SK!!!
2 Comments:
i think real or not depends on ur faith.. just like havong faith in God. Me n my best friend, we rarely talk even we see each other on MSN. even when im back in m'sia.. she's always busy with her bf or work.. she does always turn me down when i need her too.. but i guess is the faith we have in each other. Hugs.
Yeap i guess it is a mixture of both turst and faith.Somepeople are busy and neverthere for you but they might be prayingor you every night..
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